Absences makes the heart grow fonder, but out of sight is out of mind.

It’s better safe than sorry, but nothing ventured nothing gained.

Look before you leap, but he who hesitates is lost.

There are a lot of words pasted on pretty backgrounds here in Tumbletown. A lot of insights into the workings of other people’s relationships. Many of them carry an important message, but the key is context. Life is full of nuance, and so we  must take each piece of advice with a grain of salt.

It’s easy for me to see  or read something here, and wonder if maybe I’m doing it wrong. If their relationship works that way, shouldn’t mine? “Good” submissives like to do “X’’, but “X” is difficult for me, and suddenly I feel less than.

It can be hard to remember that my relationship is unique. I do what I can to please him, and he does what he can to care for me. Our needs and desires are specific to us, and what anyone else would do in our place is insignificant. What works for the goose is not always good for the gander.

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